I like to think of everything as a system. Most organizations have processes to enable them work properly but guess what? They still don’t work properly not only because some people don’t know these processes but also because some people know these processes but don’t bother abiding by them.
Consultants are paid huge sums to help solve organizational issues either by redefining processes or undergoing process and change management to help people redefine culture and ways of doing things.
Unfortunately, definitely not everyone will adapt to right processes and eventually some would be let go while some would resign voluntarily.
Marriage is like a system or an institution and for Christians, the bible gives us guidelines/processes for marriage. Some of these guidelines we know, some we don’t because we do not study enough.
The one we all love is “Husbands love your wives as Christ loves the church, Wives submit to your husbands as unto the Lord”. The funny thing is, depending on who’s quoting this scripture, it’s always quoted half way just to prove a point.
Two things were mentioned and emphasized right? “Love and submission”. Guess what? There are other elements that have also been mentioned which are also fundamental for successful relationships and marriages.
The Love most of us have and know is the ‘feeling’ kinda of love but real love is a decision.
We all know, at least most Christians know 1 Corinthians 13 but many do not love according to that reference. If a quarter of us Christians loved or at least tried loving according to 1 Corinthians 13, the issue of dysfunctional marriages and societies wouldn’t even come up because then, that perfect agape love would cover every other thing.
With this series, when I say “Love is never enough”, I refer to the love most of us feel when we decide to get into relationships and get married to someone. The ‘butterflies in the stomach’, ‘I cannot do without this person’ kinda love.
I have learnt and still learn from great people of God and I remember being confused when most of them would say don’t marry someone just because you feel you’re in love with the person, marry your friend.
There’s a whole lot involved in marriage, it’s not the 2-hour romantic Hollywood movie you would watch, it’s a lifetime adventure of loving, sacrificing, accommodating and appreciating someone else in your life.
Love is a very important ingredient of any successful relationship or marriage but it it not enough.