The grass is always greener on the other side; How about nurturing your own grass from brown to green and green to greener. No matter how you claim you love someone, if you keep comparing them to other people you could lose out on what you both share.
We compare everything, from grades, friendships, careers, relationships and even marriages. You never really enjoy what you have when you spend the moments comparing with others.
Life is an individual journey not a competition, enjoy the moments, family, friends, jobs, children and partners you have.
Find joy in your own relationships, enjoy what you have, the love you share, because the moment you start wanting what other people have, you start drifting apart.
When you start comparing and complaining, the love you both share starts fading away no matter how strong you thought it was.
The beauty of marriage is when God gives you a partner and you both learn together, grow together, develop together and improve together. Appreciate each other for the highs and lows, learn to abound and abase or at least be prepared to.
Paul spoke so sternly when he addressed the Corinthians and advised that it was unwise to compare ourselves with others and much more. (2 Corinthians 10:12).
Stop comparing people in your lives with other people, embrace people for who they are and not who you want them to be; No one is perfect, not even you.
It is unfair and not wise to put pressure on the person you date or marry or even birth to become someone they are not. Change is constant, the person you decide to marry might change. Their financial status might change, their physical status might change and if you’re not ready to stick with someone through all these changes, you may need to rethink your journey of commitment.
Be content with your sexual life as married couples and if you’re not, work together to get better not against each other.
Be content with your finances as partners and if not, strategize together to build your own empire no matter how little. Covetousness never really ends well.
So what if he’s taller than your partner, so what if he bought his wife a new car, so what if she’s more beautiful or has a better physique than your wife, so what if they go on vacations frequently, so what if his child has better grades than your child.
Make your partner, wife, husband, children, friends happy and stop with the comparison and complaints. Be content.
If you’re reading this and you have any problems with being content with someone you want to get married to or are married to and you really love them, sincerely ask God to help you.
It may not be easy at first but the more you lean on God and trust Him to help you, it will get better. Love is a decision, choose to be content and happy with what and who you have.
The grass isn’t always greener on the other side, Contentment is key! 🙂