Submission is not synonymous to slavery or weakness contrary to many beliefs. Stop getting on the edge when people say you should submit to your partner, and I say partner referring to both men and women.
Women get defensive when we are told we should submit and of course, men would argue that women are the only ones meant to submit to them as husbands thus suppressing them.
Most times we interpret scriptures in isolation and miss out on the actual message.
If the bible says wives should submit to their husbands while husbands should love their wives, does this then mean wives should not love their husbands while husbands should not submit themselves to their wives? Ephesians 5:22-33 .
I would like to refer to two bible scriptures:
1) Ephesians 5:22 which says we should submit ourselves to one another in the fear of God.
2) 1 Peter 3:1-7 which tells wives to submit to husbands even when they do not obey the word of God, (hmm!) so they might be won over to God by this strange conduct of submission. It also says husbands should dwell with their wives in understanding and give honor to her so that prayers made may not be hindered.
I noticed Peter used the word ‘likewise’ when referring to both wives and husbands and I like to think this meant similar comparison.
To honor someone is to give high respect and esteem to that person. Have you ever paused to think what it would be like to love a woman as Christ loved the church? Take all those emotions aside, Christ was submissive, He is God, He is equal to God the Father, but He obeyed the Father who sent Him to give His life for people who didn’t even love Him.
Christ gave up everything, He took the pain, shame and curse by giving His life and dying on the cross. Submission is not subjecting your wives to slavery and suppression. Love, honor and respect your wives.
You are meant to take the pain away from your wife, not inflict pain on her. Nothing comes before your wife, She is your glory and vice versa.
What matters is not your outward beauty and adornment but your respect, submission and love to your husband. 1 Corinthians 11:9-10 buttresses the fact that the man is the head, woman was made from and for man, you can’t take that away.
Christ honors authority. Two captains or pilots can’t control the ship or airplane at the same time, correct me if I’m wrong. Submission doesn’t stop you from having an opinion or airing your views, but you doing it with respect.
If your husband doesn’t accept your views especially when you know they are right, take it to God in prayer.
If you can not submit to a man for what ever reason, I don’t think you should consider going into marriage with him. If you consciously decide to marry an unbeliever, you should be ready to submit to his final decisions in marriage, else you know you’re going into a commitment that may not be sustained.
Finally, no career, ministry or person comes before your husband.
I believe wives and husbands should both love, respect and submit to each other .
Wives should learn to give up every form of pride, trust and submit to the husband as the head of the home to make decisions and guide the home in a godly way.
Husbands likewise need to not only love their wives, but submit themselves by respecting and honoring them. This way both parties are fully giving of themselves, sacrificing everything for the good of each other and their marriage.
That’s what marriage is about. After all, you both are one right? When you both are in Christ, you should understand that you are partners and thus dependent on each other. 1 Corinthians 11:11-12.