I recently visited a friend and sighted a beautiful plant sitting gracefully on her kitchen window and I knew I had to get one. I asked her where she got it from and she mentioned it was from a mutual friend.
For weeks leading to months, I wanted to ask our mutual friend for the same plant but I kept stalling. For one, I just felt I didn’t want to bother her and so I never asked.
One graceful day, I got an opportunity and I summoned to courage to ask . A day later, she stopped by my house and dropped a beautiful pot of plant at my porch. I was elated.
Every time I look at my new plant, I get reminded of how many times we do not get what we want just because we are wary of asking God. That, and so many other reasons.
We do not get what we want because we do not ask
So many times we think about the great things we want and need but we never bother to ask God for these things. The major reason we do not ask is because we do not believe He is actually capable of fulfilling our requests.
I have been a victim of this circumstance, failing to ask just because it seems unlikely. By doing this, we are outrightly limiting God. When you view God as supreme with unlimited powers, you will ask for anything.
Ask and it will be given to you…… You do not have because you do not ask. (Luke 11:9; James 4:2b)
At this point, I can literally hear some people saying “yea right! I have asked so many times but never received” . Well, so have I but there’s something that usually happens when we eventually ask.
We do not get what we want because we become wavering in our faith
Sometimes, we suddenly doubt the fulfillment of our requests even after asking. We need to believe that God can and that He is able to meet our requests. Faith is a basic element of getting our prayers answered.
Legitimately, the circumstances surrounding certain situations signal negative outcomes and this usually reminds me of Peter’s story in the bible. If only we fixate our gaze on God, we would less likely be deterred and become more unwavering in our faith.
…whatever thing you ask when you pray, believe that you have received them, and you will have them. (Mark 11:24)
Yet again, someone out there feels “But I asked and I have so much faith but yet I did not receive”.
There are so many reasons why we ask and do not receive even though we feel we have enough faith but one major reason is the intentions behind our requests.
We do not get what we want because of our motives
Do you really think about your motives when you ask for things? When I asked for the plant, I basically wanted it for two things, for my house decoration and for the many purposes of the plant.
My friend did not know my motive, but if she had the power to know, she would assess the usefulness of going the distance to give me the plant. If infact I had no useful need for the plant or worse still, if I wanted to use it for harmful things, she would most likely not grant my request.
This is the way God, who is all knowing, assesses the motives behind our requests. Sometimes getting our requests might bring harm to us or others either in the short term or even in the future. Other times, our requests may just be for frivolous reasons.
…When you ask, you do not receive because you ask with wrong motives. (James 4:3a)
I have wondered sometimes why I do not get answered prayers even when I believe I have the right motives, at least I do not mean any harm. I know so many people think this way and this leads us to the final reason.
We do not get what we want because our plans defer from God’s plans
Aligning our requests to God’s plans is so paramount to getting them answered. When we make requests, it’s good to pause and discern if really what we are asking for is in line with God’s will and if it would eventually bring glory to Him.
So many times when I sense my requests are not being granted, I always ask for the grace to accept the peace of God’s will being fufilled because He has promised that the plans He has for us are of good and they are definitely better than my own plans.
This is a good way to be at peace and deal with disappointments when we feel our requests are not being granted and we do not get what we ask for.
Sometimes, the timing we get our requests answered differs from what we expect. Therefore, we also need to understand that God’s timing is always the best.
…If we ask anything according to his will he hears us. And if we know that he hears us in whatever we ask, we know that we have the requests that we have asked of him. (1 John 5:14-15)
I hope this really helps us understand some of the the reasons why we do not always get what we want or ask for.